SEXUAL ADDICTION
Diagnosing the Syndrome
Some people become addicted to sex. What is the
function of the brain in sexual addiction? What ways are there to
cope with this addiction and to regain and insure a healthier
sexual life?
What is Sexual Addiction?
Compulsive sexuality is an addiction and a
problem with control. Healthy sex is a fulfilling expression of
affection and love. It provides a channel by which to achieve
deeper emotional intimacy. Yet, for some, there is a driving
compulsion to engage in sexual activity excessively and
harmfully. Sexual addiction gives a destructive turn to normal,
life-enhancing activity. Sexually addicted persons are unable to
control or postpone their sexual feelings and actions. They may
go on sexual binges, futilely striving to satisfy an insatiable
sexual craving. For some sexual addicts, the pursuit of sex
becomes the purpose for living, more important to them than
family, friends, or profession.
The Brain and Sexual
Addiction
The brain responds to and directs major
elements of the body's internal system of chemical messages.
Sexual arousal ignites central nervous system activity, sparking
numerous changes in the body. The expectation of pleasure
increases production of hormones, boosts the heart rate,
increases blood pressure and heightens neuronal sensitivity. The
metaphorical "chemistry" between two people becomes
biochemical in fact, as the chemical phenylethylamine (PEA)
appears in the brain. PEA is responsible for the thrill and
energy of falling in love and infatuation. Rising levels of this
chemical result in intensified excitement and euphoria. Sexual
addicts are dependent upon the physical and psychological arousal
fostered by constant doses of PEA--the "love drug"--in
the brain.
Understanding Sexual
Compulsivity
Many sexual addicts experienced abuse or
neglect during childhood. As a result, they developed feelings of
inadequacy and low self-image. Their parents may have been sexual
addicts themselves, and to compensate for their behavioral
excesses, may have raised their children with inflexible
attitudes regarding sexuality. Sexual compulsion is often
accompanied by feelings of shame, guilt and unworthiness. Though
sexual experiences may offer a short-term release from these
feelings, eventually the addict will again be confronted with
shame, blame and self-contempt. Addicts feel powerless to control
their behavior.
Characteristics of Sexual
Addiction
These symptoms are characteristic of a sexual
addict's life experience:
- Preoccupation--constantly searching
for new sexual prospects.
- Compulsion--continuing to engage in
sexual activity despite harmful consequences and a desire
to stop.
- Despair--guilt or shame over
inability to control sexual behavior.
Ending Sexual Addiction
The first step toward ending any addiction to
become aware of the problem. When you realize your behavior is
out of control, it is time to look at the problems associated
with your sexual behavior. These can be financial, emotional, and
physical.
As a sexual addict, there are steps to be taken
to help you overcome feelings of loss or isolation. Since stress
sometimes triggers compulsive sexual activity, stress reduction
methods are sometimes helpful.
There are several support groups to assist the
sexually compulsive individual. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous,
Sexaholics Anonymous and Sex Abusers Anonymous are all
organizations qualified to help. These associations can be found
in your local telephone directory. Your seeking help can be a
very healthy sign.
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