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Sun Jun 20 2021  


Do You Know The Score?

Do people seem to enjoy being with you, or do they head the other way when you enter the room? Building relationships begins with the signals you give to show others you care about them.

Rate your relationship skills on a scale of 1 to 5. Give yourself a 5 if your behavior is solidly in the first ("Do you...") column and a 1 if it's decidedly in the third ("Or do you...") column. For instance, someone who appreciates other people's humor about half the time would give themselves a 3 for that skill.

Partners Exercise

Do this exercise with your spouse or a close friend. Fill out the worksheet for yourself and for your partner, then compare your partner's perceptions about your relationship skills with your own. Use the worksheets as a starting point for a discussion on ways to improve your relationship with your partner.

Now begin:

Your name or partners name:

Do you... Rating Or do you...
Show concern for people's needs? 5 4 3 2 1 Only care about your own problems?
Listen to others with genuine interest? 5 4 3 2 1 Tend to ignore what is really being said?
Resist being swayed by first impressions? 5 4 3 2 1 Make judgments about people before getting to know them?
Frequently compliment other people's accomplishments? 5 4 3 2 1 Resent or ignore other people's success?
Enjoy other people's ideas? 5 4 3 2 1 Discourage opinions different from your own?
Appreciate humor in others? 5 4 3 2 1 Hate kidding and joking by others?
Let people finish a statement before jumping in with your thoughts? 5 4 3 2 1 Interrupt people frequently?
Use "body language" to show you are interested in others? 5 4 3 2 1 Look bored and impatient?

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